When Incubator was in its infancy, I was hesitant to open myself to the “world” and initially restricted its access. After a few weeks, I decided to remove this “barrier” and it, along with Territories, have remained “open” ever since.
The second tier of openness focused on the books I was reading at the time. Many were interpersonal in nature and several were admittedly “taboo” in a professional setting, ranging in topics from marriage “counseling” to personality disorders. Uncertain whether to include such texts in my published reading list, I consulted two colleagues who suggested that I either remove them completely or bundle them within an “interpersonal” section.
I always found this latter recommendation intriguing; did “bundling” somehow dilute or minimize what I was learning about at the time? It’s as if this aspect of my life could somehow be packaged neatly in a box to focus greater attention on the “important” aspects of my Internet presence. What is, of course, ironic is that this “box” was ultimately the catalyst for my electronic presence in the first place.
The third tier of openness focused on posts (essays?) that pushed the boundaries of what an online diary could look like, but never reaching that tipping point. Or have I?
Now half-way through the book Alone Together, I am forced to reflect on where these online posts are heading and what value they are providing me.
While the “negative” examples focus heavily on the use of Facebook, the “positive” can be perhaps summarized by the following excerpt:
“In thinking about online life, it helps to distinguish between what psychologists call acting out and working through. In acting out, you take the conflicts you have in the physical real and express them again and again in the virtual. There is much repetition and little growth. In working through, you use the materials of online life to confront the conflicts of the real and search for new resolutions.“
As originally intended, my online experience over the past two and a half years has been about the latter. But what else is there to work through now?
One could argue that I’ll always have something to work through, and that writing will aid in my ability to successfully navigate through these challenges. And given my success using this approach, I completely support this claim.